Why don’t children want to enter the gate of kindergarten?
“Mom, don’t go, I don’t want to go in.
The 3-year-old Plateau (pseudonym) cried and grabbed her mother’s clothing corner, and refused to walk into the gate of the kindergarten.
Finally, under the advice of her mother, with tears hanging above the small plateau, she stepped into the kindergarten three or three times.
Every time the school starts, this scene is staged in front of many kindergartens.
Does this seemingly ordinary scene hide some signals that we ignore?
What impact will the imprint on my child have on his future personality?
What made them reluctant to walk through the gates of kindergartens?
The reporter interviewed a number of children studying in kindergartens and their parents.
The kindergarten has too many rules and regulations. “Our kindergarten doesn’t allow casual talking.
Cao Shuang (pseudonym), 5, said that his kindergarten stipulates when he can talk and when he cannot.
“On one occasion, when I took my nap and wore clothes, I called a child’s name and was criticized by the teacher.
The teacher said that he couldn’t speak when wearing clothes, otherwise he would dress slowly.
“The kindergarten where Cao Shuang lives has the same rule: he cannot go to the toilet after 5pm every day.
“Sometimes, as soon as I took my child out of the kindergarten, he was tempted to go to the bathroom.
It took me a while to know that the child had been in a kindergarten for a long time.
“Cao Shuang’s father was a bit angry,” because the teacher had to clean the toilet before 5 o’clock, and after the parents picked up the children, they could go straight to work.
But after 5 o’clock, children usually have to wait for performance to see their parents.
I think this requirement is too much for children.
The phenomenon of corporal punishment still exists. Before going to bed at night, the 3-year-old girl Kun Kun washed her butt, but when she crouched, she called a leg pain.
After detailed inquiries, my mother learned that Kun Kun and a few young boys slipped to teach shirts to play while the teacher was not paying attention, and the teacher sent them back to punish them for squatting.
Kun Kun said: “I don’t like teachers anymore, and never go to kindergarten again.
“For some adults, corporal punishment in kindergartens has brought them a lot of shadows.
One parent said, “I was often closed in a small black house. I had to talk in class, and I had to eat when I was slow to eat.
“Another parent said,” The teacher hit our back with a little discomfort.
“Cao Shuang also said,” Some teachers will also look up. When I see the teacher like this, I am afraid.
“In the kindergarten, I never realized that the 4-year-old Fangfang (pseudonym) was making a mess with her parents about going to kindergarten these days.
Every time she went to kindergarten, she looked unhappy.
Asked why, Fangfang said for a long time: “The teacher asked a question in class, let’s raise our hand to answer.
She asked me everything, but I raised my hand several times, and the teacher didn’t call me.
Also, before we eat, the teacher will ask the children to set the bowl, but I have n’t asked for it recently. The teacher definitely does n’t like me.
“Experts: The seeds sown in childhood that influenced the character, decided to harvest some kind of fruit in adulthood.
Children’s awareness of self-evaluation will develop rapidly in the early preschool years (3-4 years). At this time, they will pay more attention to the outside world and other people’s behavior.
Perhaps the teacher’s understatement, a look or a tone, may form an insurmountable gap in the character of the child.
First of all, too many rules can form compulsive consciousness.
Experts believe that the rules of kindergartens are necessary.
It is good for children’s future growth to adopt a variety of rules to develop the habit of obeying social norms.
But the rules must be humane, otherwise it will kill the child’s nature and vitality, and it may seriously cause the child to form a forced consciousness when he grows up.
Because the teacher usually only tells the child when to do what, but rarely explains why.In fact, excessive punishment creates two extreme personalities.
The punishment for breaking the rules must also be moderate.
Infant corporal punishment will have two effects on children: First, the child’s rebellious mentality is getting stronger and stronger, and the contradictions are constantly intensified by the teacher’s discipline.
The second is to form an inferiority complex.
If the child was weak, the teacher’s criticism caused him to feel that he was not a good child and broke the jar.
After such children go to school, they often become problem students.
In the end, there is no awareness that the child will evade responsibility.
Psychologists have experimentally proven that what children fear most is not being recognized.
At first, children may do extreme things and want to get the attention of the people around them.
If in vain, he chooses to avoid responsibility.
Experts agree that kindergartens must strengthen their own management so as to provide a safe place for children’s hearts.